Attraction by Instinct (ELITE MAN PODCAST)

Guest appearance on The Elite Man Podcast:

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I speak with Elite Man founder Justing Stenstrom Attraction by Instinct. 

Summary (taken from

  • How Ruwan became a sexuality and men’s coach and the struggles he had earlier on in his life
  • How he got good with women at first but why it felt really weird after a while
  • The fact that when Ruwan switched over to having more of a natural game he not only had better success but also was much happier
  • Why having empathy is one of the most important tools to have in your dating and sexual life
  • Why we all have a built in mechanism for reading women and how to use it the right way
  • How to use your instincts and when to trust them
  • How to get in touch with your body and your movements and how this translates into being more aware with women
  • How to escalate with women quickly and effortlessly
  • How to be more sexual with women and consequently be more into the women you meet
  • How to get women to actually approach you
  • Being in touch with your desires and expressing this to women
  • How to become more balanced with your masculine and feminine sides and why this is so important
  • Why Ruwan and I both love hanging out with women even without sex on the table
  • How to have a better sex life right away
  • Having sex that both you and your partner completely enjoy
  • Understanding a woman’s anatomy and the basics of good sex

Ruwan Meepagala

Ruwan brings people back to their instincts. He writes, teaches, and coaches on expressing creative energy. He hosts a video series about relationships and has a podcast on Perpetual Orgasm and Infinite Play. You can find more of his work at He lives in Austin, TX with his girlfriend and sometimes reads books while hanging upside down.